If any of you have dabbled in Christian Evangelical circles (yes I know this is a bit niche) you may have come across a phrase "Belong, Believe, Behave" as a pattern of thinking about inclusion and transformation in church communities. Importance was placed on the order in which the process occurred. People should feel welcomed and included, subsequently, through exposure to the ideologies and experiences of the community, they might start believing and through that belief, behaviour would be altered. Though to virgin ears this may smack of manipulation, I think the concept was usually adopted with the genuine intention of offering unconditional inclusion and allowing a person to explore matters of faith at their own pace, and in that sense, they may have been on to something.
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Tuesday, 20 June 2023
More on belonging
Monday, 19 June 2023
We belong here
"Today, if we have no peace, it's because we have forgotten we belong to each other" Mother Teresa
I've been out of the blogging loop for a while, but this month on the Psychology Course I am doing, we have been tasked with writing a blog about belonging and aging. As academia will have it's own idea of what an acceptable blog post looks like, I thought I'd write here what I want to first!
Belonging is becoming a new buzz word in social psychology, as studies on our social connectedness, or lack of it are increasingly revealing its massive health and well-being implications. But as Kim Samuel states in her new book, belonging is not just about a connection to other people but our "place, power and purpose in the world". At a fundamental level belonging becomes an existential question "am I meant to be here?". The answer to this question gets filtered through a multitude of positive and negative experiences, reinforcing or reducing our confidence to say "Yes".
Belonging is connected to a sense of acceptance and positive affect. The feeling you get when you come home, if you have had the luck to feel it. Unfortunately many of us feel at odds with the world, fighting to find our place or prove we've earnt it, a strange phenomena of human consciousness, that leaves us hungry for reassurance and susceptible to doubt.
In this context belonging becomes an act of faith, in ourselves and in each other. Here is the bind, belonging is reciprocal, it involves the Universe saying Yes to us and us saying Yes to the Universe, or indeed to others,in relationships and participation. Increasingly with the rise of social media, we want to connect but not commit, we want pleasure without participation, inclusion without intrusion. Traditional ritual based communities are eroding and with them our social glue is loosing its stickiness.
Now, more than ever, we need to remember our common identity, practice compassion, create new rituals of connection and take a deep breath and know deep down in our souls that YES we belong here, we are home and we are loved.
Sunday, 5 April 2020
What are we applauding for?
Saturday, 16 December 2017
The envelope challenge
Awaiting a child of promise is not exclusive to the Christian tradition, many religions understand there is a destiny over certain people to bring a special message to the world.
So I return to the envelope as a meditation. Imagine the envelope carries the answer but what is the question? What is the deepest longing of my heart? What is the message that the world needs to hear to put things right? and then imagine, imagine opening it!
Now I imagine you are a shepherd, poor and weary, in ancient occupied Palestine awaiting, maybe not even believing anymore that change will come and suddenly an angelic message comes to you in the cold night. 'Unto us a child is born.' And now you find yourself in an underground cave staring at this strange gift, a child of promise wrapped in cloth, silent as an unopened envelope. What will he do, what could he possibly say, to make any difference to these darkened days?
Stay there, stop and stare, until you find the question that is most deeply lodged in your heart.
In Christian understanding what sets Christ apart from other prophets is that he did not bring to the world only a message, but a Person, the very Heart and Spirit of God, and in doing so He opened a door into a new dimension. 'The Word became flesh and dwelt among us' John 1v14
Sunday, 3 December 2017
Pro active
Perfect timing
Romans 5v6 ' you see, at just the right time, when we were powerless, Christ died for the ungodly'
Friday, 1 December 2017
Something that changes everything
It proved to be as true today as back then! When I saw the same sparky look in the eyes of my local coffee shop barista, we broke into a flurry of enthusiastic conversation. I smiled knowingly at the people I walked past in the street, I walked slower...
Before Christ's birth the people of Israel, amongst others, were waiting for something, someone, who could come along and change everything. Looking back it's fair to say the arrival of the little babe Jesus to the world changed quite a few things!! But not necessarily in the way that was expected.
On a more personal level I know Christ has changed everything for me, sometimes I take it for granted, I guess sometimes I need to look out of the window of soul again like a little kid and wait for him to come along like a snowy day :-)
La salida de la casa hoy, pisando la nieve, me hizo recordar por qué, como niña, anticipaba días de nieve con tanta ilusión. Por la mayor parte era por la probabilidad incrementada de tener un día sin cole, pero esto solo formaba parte de una sensación más profunda, que un día de nieve te podría venir y cambiarte todo. Tu horario, tu vista, tu jugar y hasta tu actitud!
Se probó igual de cierto hoy que en aquel entonces. Al ver la misma mirada brillante en los ojos de la barista en mi cafetería local, nos emocionamos hablando. Sonrisas comprendidas al pasar a la gente en la calle, y paseos mas lentos ...
Antes del nacimiento de Cristo el pueblo de Israel, entre otros, estaban esperando a un algo, a un alguien que podría cambiar todo. Mirando atrás se puede decir que la llegada de ese pequeño Jesus ha cambiado bastantes cosas, pero igual no de la manera que se esperaba.
Hablando a nivel personal, Cristo ha cambiado todo para mi, a veces no lo tomo en cuenta, a veces necesito volver a asomar la ventana de mi alma como una niña pequeña y esperar su venida tal como un día de nieve!